Owning Your Sexual Self

103. Edging for Beginners

February 14, 2022 Rachel Maine
Owning Your Sexual Self
103. Edging for Beginners
Show Notes

Happy Valentine’s Day, everyone! Today’s topic is edging, something you can implement in your sex life or relationship all year round. Edging is something I’ve learned about over the last few years, but I feel like I was edging before I knew I was edging.

I wanted to share this information with you about edging for so many reasons.
It can help men last longer, it can help with erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation,  for both sexes edging is a great technique to build up frustration as a great foreplay tool, and it’s something that is going to increase and intensify your orgasm. Edging can also allow for longer sexual sessions, it can increase your sexual stamina and give you more controlled orgasms. 

Edging is a sexual technique to build up an orgasm by teasing and delaying gratification right up until the point of orgasm. Essentially this will look like getting very very close to orgasm without allowing them or yourself to achieve an orgasm.

Why should you try edging?
Especially for people who have penises edging is going to get them close to achieving orgasm to get that build up, and  is going to allow them to have a stronger more intense orgasm. It will also prepare them for future sexual sessions and allow them to last longer in them. 
If you know you’re going to be edged by your partner, so to give yourself the state of mind to pull back and not allow yourself to get to orgasm gives you so much control over your own sexuality. 

Here are five steps on how to edge the next time you’re masturbating or having sex with a partner. Edging is another technique that I will recommend that you start exploring on yourself first. Starting solo with anything when it comes to sex is really the best practice overall so that you can learn and know your body in a better way. 

#1. Stimulate yourself or your partner until you feel you are right at the point of climax. This is going to give you the opportunity to learn your body and be able to identify the signs in yourself that you’re going to climax
#2. Slow down or pause the stimulation so that you or they don’t climax.
Maybe you’re slowing the speed or pressure, or moving on to a different area of the body.
#3.
Wait for a couple of deep breaths so you or your partner can control the orgasm and not climax. Breathing is such a huge piece of having sex. There are some people who really breathe through their orsams or foreplay, and there are some people who hold their breath. Practicing different breaths through your orgsams can be very enlightening for you to learn.
#4.
You are going to start back up and get the build up back to the point of orgasm. Think of edging as kind of like a rollercoaster, it goes up and down, up and down.
#5
. After edging for as many times as you like, finally allow yourself or your partner to release and achieve an orgasm. This might be a discussion you have with your partner beforehand about how many times you want to edge. Maybe you will incorporate it into dirty talk and count for your partner and let them know during the edging process.

Often times when it comes to sex we just go to fast. Edging is not the technique for the quickie sort of sex scene. This is where you have the time and you want to take the time to do sexual exploration with your partner and I can speak from personal experience that when maybe the desire isn’t there right at the beginning, edging can absolutely bring you into it.  
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