Owning Your Sexual Self

111. We Went to a Kink Show

April 18, 2022 Rachel Maine
Owning Your Sexual Self
111. We Went to a Kink Show
Show Notes

We are taking a whole new meaning to freaky Friday, we’re making it Kinky Friday! I’m going to be telling you all about the experience Danny, my friends and I had at something called Kinky Friday.
My friends and I went to this bar called the Gay 90’s in Minnesota when I was visiting because this bar has rooms with different vibes, and we knew it would be a good time. Surprisingly, when we walked in they immediately asked us if we were there for the kink show. So obviously, I’m like “Holy, yes. Yes we are here for the kink night.” 

What is Kinky Friday?
Its a consensual experience. There are performers, and different stations to go to and a separate bar. It was a safe environment to experience and educate yourself on these things. To give you an idea, this is a sign that is posted when you get there, "You are now entering Kinky Friday, a consent focused space. No touching without asking, no photos or video except in the Kinky Friday photobooth, no means no, yes means yes, respect is sexy, consent is mandatory. " When I got back there, the diversity of this room where they hold this kink night was was incredible, and it just filled my heart with joy to see. You are accepted in that space and in that community no matter how you dress or what you look like. 

How did the first Kink Night impact me personally?
The grand finale of the first Kinky Friday I went to is what made me realize that I have some exhibitionism in me. It was one of the sexiest, hottest things I’ve ever experienced. Seeing her in that role was definitely something I could see myself in. In this space where trust and responsibility was there and judgment was not. It was a place where you could be yourself and own your pleasure. 

Now, fast forward to a few weeks ago
Danny and I went to Minnesota and as soon as I realized we would be in town for Kinky Friday, I knew that this was something we needed to do. 

What was it like going to this with Danny?
It was also very cool to be able to experience this with Danny because after each sort of kinky thing went by we were able to do this check in with each other. Asking things like “What did you think of that?” “Was that hot?” Or saying things like “That is so hot, that is such a turn on for me.”. We were able to make plans for our future sexual encounters, and things to try in the future. It was also good to be able to say the things that were not turn ons for us.

One of the things that I loved there and immediately bought on amazon is basically a spiky little pinwheel. About a week after the show we were able to give the pinwheel a try and this thing fucking hurts! It was not what I was expecting, I thought it was going to be a little tickle, but it hurt and kinda felt like a bunch of little bites!  If you like the pain, and the kinky things, you should get one of these, it was so fun. 

Go to a kink show. If you ever have the opportunity to go to one and you can be a solid human and not be an asshole and go in there and judge people, go.  It was such a good experience. To be able to talk to your partner about these things, to be able to see and experience new things that you may have never even heard of or never seen before is so so good. SO GOOD. 

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