I’m coming to you from my office holding my stuffed clitorises for inspiration this week. This Meeting women and seeing their light bulb moments when I’m giving them this information at parties is what made me realize I just needed to do an episode all about the clitoris.
I bring a vulva pillow and do a little female anatomy 101 at every single party because it is something that I believe most women are lacking. If you are a vulva owner and haven’t taken a mirror and looked and done some self exploration to your genitals and really get to know and get comfortable with them, then you might not know and understand your vulva in a pleasure focused center, it truly can make all the difference for you.
When doing the vulva anatomy 101, I show where the outer and inner labia are. I show what is actually the vagina, a lot of times we refer to our genitals as the vagina but the vagina is actually the inside part of the vulva. Then I go into how the gspot is 2 inches in, 2 inches forward and feels like a spongy almond. Then I show the urethra and explain how it is it’s own separate hole. Then the top gem on my pillow is to resemble the clitoris, and that’s what this episode is all about, the clitoris.
For so many of us we think that the little bean part is the only clitoris, but that's not the case. When you’re looking externally at the vulva, what we see as the clitoris is just the tip of the iceberg. The clitoris is actually shaped like a wishbone, we actually have two clitoral legs and kinda wrap sound the labia.
Knowing that, I’m going to challenge you to really focus more so on your labia or explore your entire vulva next time you’re engaging in self pleasure or during foreplay with your partner. When you’re doing that, you’re actually activating those clitoral legs, and you’re going to give yourself a stronger orgasm.
Most of us are masturbating the same way we first learned how to masturbate. When I ask women how they learned about masturbation and most of us are still doing what we first realized felt good. Over 85% of women need clitoral stimulation to achieve an orgasm, that is a huge portion.
Only 20% of women orgasm with just vaginal penetration with no clitoral stimulation. When you think of sex positions not a lot give many clitoral stimulation without the help of your hands or a toy. It all comes back to where your body is getting stimulated. So when you’re in many sex positions you’re not having as much pleasure because your clitoris is not getting stimulated enough or in the right way.
The clitoris is made of 8 to 12 thousand nerve endings, that is double what a penis has. Which means women are feeling so so much more intense pleasure than penis owners. You also actually have a preference for if you like stimulation more on the left side or the right side.
So next time you go and enjoy your self pleasure and focus some stimulation downward from the top of your clitoris on each side, and get curious about yourself and your clitoris.
Self pleasure is the key to overall pleasure. Using your voice, and knowing your sexual body more will allow you to use your voice more effectively.
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